I’ve always loved travelling and it didn’t matter whether it was 45 min away from home or 30 hours. The idea of going away fascinated me and so I felt like I was on good terms with Change. I forgot that each time I went away for a day or a month, it felt so good because I knew I would go back home afterwards and it would be another memory for the collection.
Jenifer Coletta once said:
“It’s good to start over. It will be scary but you will see what you’re really made of; it’s the best opportunity to achieve what you never thought you could.”
My two biggest fears when it comes to starting over are:
- This time may not work out like last time. I’ve had to start over a few times to know that in the end I will be fine. It’s just that whenever I’m faced with yet another situation, I doubt that the magic of perseverance will work.
- I don’t want to go through what I went through last time. I don’t want to feel scared, doubtful of my abilities, lonely, tired,etc.
Having gone through things like breakups, school changes, moving to other countries, unemployment, employment, immigration,etc I have come to realize that change forces us to start over. There is no going back to what “it” (whatever it may be) was. You can spend what feels like a decade with someone and one day, circumstances pushes the two of you apart. For some of us we even try to hold on to things longer than we should because we’d rather stay in a place we know every corner of than step outside and dare to grow out of that place. But sooner or later, we have to start over with ourselves or someone new. You can finally have the career of your dreams and then realize that you have to learn things 10X faster. But it is what we prayed for. It can be moving to a country where you’re the only one in the family and you now have to create this bridge between your home country (or countries) and the one you now reside in without losing yourself by learning/unlearning ideas, beliefs, and more. But all things eventually work out for our good.
So start over with fear, anxiety, self-doubt, clueless but start over. There is growth on the other side. You will thank yourself later for doing so and not give up. If you’re in it, it’s because you have the ability to go through it. Until next time, take care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally. The fight for a brighter future is real…but you and I are going to be fine in the end.